7 Tips on how to get motivated and feel unstuck & feel your best in 2021

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Do you feel like your world is becoming sluggish? Do you think you need extra motivation, and becoming dry in your personality and/or character?
Are you wanting more self/personal development happening in your life?
feeling demotivated? inactive? Flat? Lifeless? Slack?

All these things mean you could be coming stagnant. I don’t know about you, but I have been lately, and it is something that I don’t want, or even need!

I thought I would write Seven tips on how to get motivated and feel your best.

Here is 7 tips to get yourself motivated daily or weekly to perform your best.

Let’s start with productivity.

1. Clean up your desk space. 

Bring out your pretty stationary, stapler, paper clips etc and maybe buy a print on Etsy and frame that would be a nice decoration on your writing desk. Wipe your computer screen. Clean your keyboard. Clean your laptop. Change your desktop wallpaper to something pretty. Get a small vase and some fake flowers and put it beside your computer. Organise your papers and pens and put them in their proper place. E.G. pen holder, paper trays etc.

2. Read a motivational book. 

I could list a NUMBER of books that could help in this arena. 

Read something like an inspiring story. I bought “Seize the day” by Joyce Meyer and it was something that I badly wanted to get because it was to do with purpose. When I felt I was becoming stagnant I realised it’s because I don’t have much purpose. And that’s what I need. 

Here is a list of books to get you motivated:

Think like a monk

Girl, stop apologising – Rachel Hollis

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance – Angela Duckworth

Key to Success: How to Be Successful and the Habits of Successful People

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck – Mark Manson

You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life – Jen Sincero

Big Magic: How to Live a Creative Life, and Let Go of Your Fear – Elizabeth Gilbert

Reading motivational books is so fulfilling and rewarding for your mind and general health and wealth. It abundantly gives you gems and sparks of words that appeal to the brain when reading. When I see a quote that pops out at me, I always have to share it on my Instagram Exquisite Emmalisa page or Emmalisa Tilli page. It also keeps you progressing and advancing. I don’t know about you, but having to read personal development books is what keeps me going in life, and self-growth is so important, and having those quotes and/or statements are what makes you endure life. 

3. Write a To-Do List. 

The best thing for productivity is to write a to do list, or even write a plan of the day. That is what I try my best to do almost every day to keep my mind and life on track. 

For example, it may look like this:

  • Finish Assignment 7, question 4
  • Read my book The Mind Gut Connection 
  • Call (family/friend)
  • Appointment/s for the day
  • Work on blog post
  • Type 1000 words for current book project

That is an example of what my day looks like. This is a daily example of mine, and is what I am doing for today, and I create a box, so that it is easier to get tasks done, so that I look at it, and see what has been done and what’s not.

Writing lists creates an efficient and effective day, and I am sure that is the most inspiring thing that everyone wants to do!

4. Eat Healthy

Make sure you are feeling your body and nourishing it with wholesome foods. Too much take away and Uber Eats can actually affect your mood and overall health. I recently started ordering Uber Eats three times a week or more, and I got a blood test and the results were that my cholesterol was way too high at 7.2. To lessen this I started to make a salad with cabbage in as it apparently lowers cholesterol. I highly recommend reading The Mind Gut Connection by Emeran Mayer. I have just started it and it is a brilliant read on how our mental state is affected by our gut health. It is almost like having two brains. The way you fuel and feed your body and gut/stomach affects your main brain in your head. So, once you have started eating healthy it generally lifts up your mood. One thing I find is that smoothies can refresh your body as well. My most top blog post is Sweet Sunday Smoothie

5. Do some calming meditation

I highly recommend this app called “Calm”. It has many sleep stories and is great for the brain when resting. There are other apps you can use for meditation, and you can simply just go onto YouTube and look up tutorials on:

Yoga

Pilates

Daily Mindfulness Meditation

10 minute meditation for anxiety

Things like this really help for those that struggle to keep a balance through out the day. I think its good to switch off technology and social media for 10-20 minutes DAILY if you want to be successful in life. You’re not going to become successful in productivity and/or being your best if you sit on your bum scrolling through Facebook and Instagram all day. Yes, they’re put there as a platform for connection and social connection/social networking/forums, but if you want to be successful you do have to learn to switch off at some point as it gives you rest and helps you refresh the/your mind. So that you can move onto better accomplishments.

6. Post your achievements on social media once you’re done!

I think that this is a FABULOUS idea. When I received my Certificate III in Library and Information Services in the post, I posted it on Facebook and I had so many people saying congratulations, it felt like I really did do something rewarding after I decided to post it on social media! I felt like I had REALLY achieved something great, and it was a good feeling. the process of the course took longer than expected but I pushed through, and the end result was amazing! I really did feel proud of myself and I will be doing this when I have my song on Spotify on the 9th July 2021. When Mood to Party is released I will be posting on Facebook for all my wonderful friends to see!!!!! and I am sure that will give me a proud feeling. If you have completed a short course, diploma or university course, share it. Instagram and Facebook are great platforms for that. and if you have done something like get your L’s or your P’s/drivers license, share it with the world! Be proud and look how far you have come and achieved. 

7. Lastly, Take a walk

I did this just yesterday at Hyde Park in Perth Western Australia, and it was the best feeling. You will notice I stopped by a greenery structured area on my Instagram page, and I decided to wear a summery dress in the middle of winter. I wanted to bring some sunshine into my life!!! It was sunny outside even after it rained, and decided to go to Hyde Park, grab a skinny weak latte and nibble on a jam donut (whilst getting swooped by a duck that stole the rest….). Taking a walk does wonders for your mental health. it brings clarity, focus and stability. Your mind feels so much better when doing so and increases your cardiovascular fitness. and your heart rate which improves your heart health. It assists you with maintaining a healthy weight and lowers any risk of disease. So! Doing this can do so much for your general and overall well being. I highly recommend you take a walk at least once to twice a week if you can and bonus if you can do it three to four times a week! You will be fit and on your way to more happiness if you do! I used to be great at walking especially on the treadmill at the gym, but I must say I haven’t exercised like I should the past few years compared to when I was in my 20’s. 

I hope you find these things helpful and that you enjoyed reading. Please have a look at the list of books to read, and make sure you jot them down for resources and you can highlight and write notes when reading to help further your personal development / self – growth. 

Change and consistency is key. If you don’t change anything in your life you will always become stagnant, and dry. So, try change things up a bit! Take a vacation….. Then do your hard work. and stop procrastinating. You’re not alone in this, as millions of people around the world go through stagnancy, and motivating yourself is knowing yourself. what things keep you on your toes and continue on with creativity, and purpose. 

I am currently writing a christian personal development / self-help/development book in which I have done 14,000 words and I am SO happy that I thought I would share that achievement on the blog! There! That’s ONE way to share!

So I hope you take these seven things and use them for inspiration. And out what inspires you the MOST! and go with it. Start small, and build on that. Don’t forget, inspiration is key for getting rid of a stagnant life, and knowing what inspires you whether its creative or whatever. Do that thing. Figure it out. Write down a plan. a daily planner or a weekly planner/to do list, and you’ll do great!!!

P.S. Someone recently today gave me some great advice and said the following:

“Don’t compare yourself to others, whether it would be lifestyle or personality. We are each unique, and should embrace that.”

Love Emmalisa ❤

What I am dreaming of in 2018


The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. …

So, it’s a New Year. It is 2018 and I am ready to rock! Bring out the planners. Create a fresh new vision! Build my future and further business/work/blogger prospects.

Before I tell you my favourite books or quotes of the year, I want to reflect on the year ahead. I want to broaden my writing prospects. Study more. Read more. Have more “quiet times”. Be more community involved. Join a church. I have just started attending KingdomCity in Wangara here in Western Australia with the senior pastors, Mark and Jemima Varughese. Their vision is “connecting, equipping and empowering people to bring the reality of God to their world.”

But I just want to further my education goals and reach higher. Aim higher. Get more and better fast tracked results health wise, financial wise or any goal-oriented points I put myself into.

My dream.

One word.

London.

Full stop.

I am enjoying the peace and quiet in Landsdale to reflect on what I personally want and strive to do. I have done the Reverse Bucket List last year. Tick!

I have set goals.

I want to be creative in my ideas.

But now is my time to put things into action and for once, use my decision-making skills and learn the decision-making process.

I have set goals and tasks, which I could share with you, but all I am thinking is, the “refresh” button. I want to start all over again, renew my thoughts, clear my mind, do it with a clean slate.

I am a goal oriented girl, and constantly talk about goals whether they’re long or short! My full dreams and aspirations and all the things I want to achieve. I am a very creative type, so doing things to create a program and become creative in everything I do would definitely help. I would love to create a platform for women to gain confidence in themselves. Starting a finishing school in Perth would also be a huge ambition/dream. I am ready!

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. …

So, I am pulling out “Your Beautiful Business” Book by Emma Franklin Belle and going to re-read this short inspirational book to see if I can turn my dreams of this blog into a business.

Emma Franklin Bell is the founder of The Beautiful Business Academy (The BBA). The BBA is an entrepreneurial academy for creative women who want to accelerate the growth of their businesses and successfully build their brands.

Your Beautiful Business Book inspires you to leap into your business and build something that is soulful, purposeful and profitable!

Next up, I will go through the book step by step about decluttering and building a stand out clear vision for my business. Bring on 2018 with some new fresh ideas and a heart full of many desires. I will be working on a book review of this book in my next blog post.

Any tips?

Have you started a business?

What are your goals for 2018?

Have you got any writing goals?

Any travel goals?

Also, what do you think of me starting a Finishing School in Perth for young ladies? Please comment below your thoughts. I would LOVE to hear from you!

Set your goals high, and don’t stop till you get there.

P.S. I will add my favourite books of the year and do more Book Reviews this year along with some different self-help quotes in a new blog post.

Also, don’t forget to check out Emma’s website and claim your FREE copy of her book!

Quick Devotion on “How to be Still”


BE STILL CALLIGRAPHY

Trust can be an impenetrable thing. We like to be in control of everything ourselves, some of us more than others, “Being still” before God means that we quiet our anxious thoughts, we put our phones down, we eliminate all distractions, we get alone with God and we pray. We wait. We trust. It’s an act of relinquishing and consecrating all to God control of our lives. When you give your life to Him, He takes care of every detail. This is something that I am learning constantly, and still learning to do when I feel I can’t trust anyone or anything else that is going on.

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Inspirational Blog Book Idea


    What do I LOVE to do? What are my passions?

What leads me to fulfilment?

These are questions I ALWAYS ask myself. I have always been the type to think about things that leave me feeling satisfied in life, and have a sense of achievement or excellency.

I want to create a life filled with LOTS of passion!!! Where I can talk to people about what I love to do! 

I have many first loves! Coffee, shopping & reading – which are probably the main three things of my life! And now! Writing! I had my first EVER article published in the local community paper, The Pheonix last Friday and bought it just today to see what it was like! 

   
I lived in Melbourne, Australia for 18 years of my life, so I have created my own sense of style, personality, and I loved my life when I was living there. Living in the suburb of Footscray, it was filled with diversity and I loved eating Chinese food mostly! 

Moving to Merriden in 2013 changed me. I had a massive culture shock and I honestly didn’t get used to it till now! TWO years later!!! 

I told a friend today that Merriden has changed me….. She responded with “HOW did it change you?” And I replied with this. 

“Very good question! Because big city girls CAN be quite superficial/fake…. Not all…. And I’m not saying I was like that, I just don’t find having the latest Burberry coat to the latest Gucci bag is as important as having family and friends around you!”

What do you think of this statement I made? Is my theory too harsh? If you’re a city girl, is there something in your heart that needs to change? Appreciate life a bit more? 

Maybe have a think about your soul…… 

I am loving a book I bought in Melbourne….. “Too beautiful” Beauty Tips for the Soul ❤️❤️❤️

    
It has so much TRUTH in it! And has beautiful quotes that make you reflect on life and what your soul needs to live a life of beauty. 

A beautiful soul is better than a beautiful face!

It has beautiful quotes such as this! 

   

Wisdom is better than pearls or gold. It is a quality that a lady needs to get through her day. Understanding is precious as well. Understanding people and what they go through in life is an amazing quality to have. 

Is wisdom something you want? 

Understanding?

I wanted these words to be a book as I hand wrote them, but I am thinking maybe one day I can create a “Blog Book”! Filled with quotes, writings, images and such in a book similar to “Love, Style, Life as I mentioned in Best Book Investment …. ❤️

I feel like, if I move back to Melbourne I will be HIT with inspiration because it is so full of fashion, great people, amazing art and culture and I can go to the L’Oreal Fashion Week which I totally miss! 

Melbourne IS Fashion. Collins street was my home….. And I worked on Queen Street when I was 18 in my first job as a Claims Assistant at Gallagher Bassett Services, after a year it didn’t work out, but I remember with my first pay I bought a CUE outfit! And I still have it to this day! Cue was my favourite brand for a VERY long time! I shopped there on Collins street everyday when I was 18-20 years of age! 

Being in Merriden it changed me because there is literally, only Target!!! It took me ages to adapt to just 1 to 3 shops! 

I shall leave you with another quote from the book, and have a think about what you can do to create a “beautiful soul”…..

Do you want to organise charity work? For example, I am currently looking at maybe hosting a morning tea with Cancer Council here in Merriden! 

Is there something you can involve yourself in to help out with your community? 

  
Kindness is also another beautiful quality to have a pleasing heart. 

Think about what you can do this week, where you can use wisdom or kindness! 

What can you do to free your soul?

                             ❤️ 

              Exquisite Emmalisa 

Gratitude Journal


ENJOYING EVERYDAY LIFE

One book I read as a teenager in 2004 was “Enjoying where you are on the way to where you are going” by Joyce Meyer. It is a spiritual christian book that digs deeper into the thoughts and joys of life.

We were given this life to enjoy every second, minute, hour, day, week and months and YEARS of life!!!!! Like I said, I am a spiritual kind of person as I did grow up in a church atmosphere all my life.

One question I would like to ask you, is, ….. Are you enjoying life?

That is something to think about, as I believe we were created to enjoy life to the fullest. I was once confused, as someone in a church said to me “Life’s not about enjoying it”, then when I went to another church, a friend quoted scripture to me and said that God said, “Therefore, I commend you the enjoyment of life”.

This got me thinking, how terrible would it be, to be known as someone that did NOT enjoy life!!!! You wouldn’t want that on your grave plaque!

If we can’t enjoy life, then there’s no hope for the future!!!! I believe we are called to ENJOY the journey that God has for us, or if you value a different belief system, a path of faith.

This reminds me of the scripture – “For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to give you a hope and a future, plans to prosper you, not to hurt you” – Jeremiah 29:11 (Quoted from the Holy Bible)

This gives us affirmation into the destiny that is set before us!

TRUST - BELIEVE

A friend of mine, Diana Bordean, tagged me on Facebook to do a Gratitiude Journal.

GRATITUDE JOURNAL

I AM GRATEFUL FOR……

A gratitude journal is something that will enrich your life and bring joy to your soul, by bringing out one thing: an attitude of gratitude.
It has been said that a new habit can be formed in 21 days.

Today I wrote down 3 things that I am most grateful for,

  1. My parents
  2. A roof over my head
  3. Mum’s cooking!!!

and will do it for the next 21 days.

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I hope to begin to see changes in the way I think, by noticing those things around me that are purposefully bringing attention to, I want to recreate my mental patterns and hopefully this will change my life. It said, ‘You will begin to feel joy more and more and it will be contagious to those around you!’ Last night I actually went to sleep with a smile on my face!

gratitude is the best attitude

Why don’t you start a gratitude journal and tell your friends to do the same thing, and let’s see just how much we can make the world a better place!

Get out your pen and favourite notebook, and start writing about what you are grateful about. This will help you in your journey in life, I believe.

Here is a more in depth article on Tips for Keeping a Gratitude Journal that will help you more with journalling.

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I am looking forward to writing down what I am grateful for for the next 21 days. It will be hard, …. to think of more things, but I suppose, that it stretches your mind to think, and ponder on the most important things in life!

 

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Exquisite Emmalisa

What are you most grateful for today?

Are you going to start a Gratitude Journal?

Is there anything that your grateful about that you’d like to share?

Dare to dream


How many “I wishes” do you have? This is my list…

I wish I could read Italian and French.
I wish I could speak like a really classy woman
I wish I could be a MORE proficient writer!
I wish I could sew and design my own brand of clothes.
I wish I could do my own hairstyles
I wish I had a toned lean killer body
I wish I had a clean, massive, expensive wardrobe

Does any of this sound familiar to you? Everybody wants some sort of words of wisdom to keep them going in life. If you can stay inspired and focus on living and achieving your goals, then whatever goals you have, they can become bigger over time, as you set out to persist and achieve more. We all have dreams, and I have been a big dreamer growing up. I have been the “reach for the stars” kind of girl. Dreams and imagination play a big part from a young age. I dreamt for the “Mary Poppins” and “Disney Princess” life when I was little, and it is probably still in me because what you fantasise as a child can still play out as you grow older! But I do have different dreams as an adult. What are your dreams?

I love this quote:

“You have to dream before your dreams can come true.” — A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

DREAM BELIEVE

“Allow yourself to dream, And when you do dream big” – Catherine Pulsifer

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